One thing to note when people get angry is that they are almost never mad at the correct thing. They find the closest thing they can blame, because ultimately paying attention to the entire situation and taking responsibility are the very last things the ego wants to do.
This is why if you can show to someone who is angry that there simply has been a misunderstanding, which means that they have no reason to be angry, they will very likely remain just as mad but will find another target—usually you—or they might even stay mad at the original thing anyway, because it doesn't really matter.
This is also why the things that get people mad tend to be so irrelevant most of the times. How often do you see genuine anger at the entire structure of our system which oppresses freedom, makes people blind to love and turns human beings into automatons working all day to serve this alienating prison? Basically never, because it is too big for people to face directly. To the extent that they get angry at real problems—and not let's say some gossip at the office or the carrots at the cafeteria being undercooked—they look at isolated symptoms of our society, which are very real but are never the roots of the issue.
Look at the state of immigration! Look at all the inequality! Look at the corruption of our rulers! Look at the destruction of our environment! Look at the wars! Look at the misinformation! Look at all the failing marriages! Look at the despair of the youth!
Egoic collectives constantly have to find targets, also known as scapegoats, to vent their anger towards when things inevitably do not go according to plan, because they do not want to take any responsibility. Conscious individuals and groups do not need such crude mechanisms, but egoic ones do, and we live in an era of complete irresponsibility, as can be seen by the destruction of the environment or social life, which no one wants to and will take responsibility for.
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2025-01-30